How to Make Your Wife Happy
When it comes down to how to make your wife happy, you are in one of two places. Either you are trying to fix what’s messed up or prevent what you have from falling out. Either way, your are craving a lasting marriage. Reading below will help you understand her.
To make a woman happy, one might think she wants something specific, but in reality, it’s not specific at all. An obvious solution is what she seeks.
She sees the problem clearly. On the other hand, you are lost. Your minds racing.
Slow down. She wants you to listen, and in return she wants to be heard. However, this doesn’t alway mean physically listening or physically talking.
PAY ATTENTION. It’s the little things that matter.Tweet
Everyone has different ways they want to receive love. Whether it be through words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, or physical touch. Learn her love language and how she thinks to build a stronger bond.
Additionally, there are some common ways you can go about how to make your wife happy on a regular basis. In short, perhaps the answer you’re seeking lies within the four C’s, and I’m not talking diamonds.
The Four C’s of a Healthy Relationship
First and foremost, if you want a relationship to work, trust in God. You can have materialistic things used to help people and bring joy to those who need it, but without love, your works will be useless.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. “– 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Choosing to love the other person even when you don’t feel like isn’t easy. Patient love means to love someone even when they have wronged you. Don’t call it quits just because you’re tired, frustrated, or hurt.
No one said love would be easy, but it’s worth it. Don’t take my word for it. Reading the Bible yourself will unlock relationship advise that no human can give you.
Have you ever heard the saying happy wife happy life? This statement is only half true. Why such a bold statement you might ask? Well I’m here to tell you this saying has a two way street.
In order make your wife happy, she has to make you happy. For a relationship to work, both parties have to care enough about one another feelings to put their pride aside.
Disagreements and conflict are simply a part of any healthy relationship. However, it’s how you engage in those conflicts that make the world of difference.
Meaning that you are not going to “win” every argument. Instead what you “win” is the love everyone desires. Follow the golden rule of treating others the way you want to be treated.
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When you put your pride to the side and allow your ears to actually listen, perhaps you might just hear what your partner is expressing to you.
Please note, I’m not saying to forfeit every argument just to make the other party happy. This action will only work until you get burned out, overwhelmed, or begin slacking on self-care.
That’s why honest and open communication is key to a healthy relationship.
It’s impossible for everyone to see eye to eye on every situation. Therefore, proper communication will have to result in a compromise.
How well do you know your wife?
Proper communication involves both parties being upfront and honest. Honesty doesn’t always mean just being truthful to your partner, it also means being true to yourself.
Being honest with yourself is a hard thing to do. Our brain is wired to keep us safe and do so in the easiest way. So, living in denial is our safety. However, if you want change, you have to be willing to feel uncomfortable.
If you want change, you have to be willing to feel uncomfortable.Tweet
Communication is always expressed verbally. Now this is where paying attention comes into play.
Make mental notes of the things that cause her the most stress. Try to eliminate the things that cause her anxiety, or better yet help her face her fears.
Helping your partner grow for the better is what a healthy relationship should look like. Express to you partner
Stop hanging on to the little things. If you say you have moved on and they’ve said sorry, then move on. However, don’t lie to yourself, if something is bothering you or doesn’t seem right talk about it.
You never want to keep something inside, doing so will only cause more pain. This means you will be more likely to get mad at petty little things because you haven’t fully forgave your partner.
Learn to help your partner and in the same manner they should be willing to help you. No one will change unless they want to. You can not change someone.
No matter how hard you try, no one will change unless they want to.Tweet
Make your Wife Happy Through Trust
Everyone knows what trust is and how it should look. However, not everyone knows how to earn ones trust. This is a complex emotion that once broken can be very hard to regain.
In order to make your wife happy, you must earn her trust and show you can trust her. You cannot have a healthy relationship without trust.
However, in order to have trust you must be vulnerable. To be vulnerable you must have both trust and safety in the relationship. If you can honestly make the effort to reveal your softer side, which I know is hard to do, then you will grow as a couple.
However, reveling your softer side is hard. Your mind wants to put up walls to protect itself from experiencing pain. Being up front and honest with one another is key here. Never say something that you don’t actually feel. This goes back to honesty.
The truth hurts but uncovering a lie feels worse.Tweet
As hard as this is going to sound, if you one cannot move on from broken trust, it may be a sign that the relationship cannot continue.
Keeping Your Wife Happy
All in all, trust in God and follow these simple rules on how to make your wife happy and see where your love life can go.